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Relationships are beautiful and even more so when the two parties involved truly love each other. However being apart from the one you love can be very challenging. But what do you do when you have no other choice?
A long distance relationship (LDR) comes with problems of its own and you both have to be ready in order to conquer them. There are a lot of things to consider before deciding to go on a long distance relationship and these are just a few of them.
Before You Start LDR: Tips to Note
1. Define the relationship
A long distance relationship: Some tips to note long distance relationship cannot be indefinite and undefined. If you don’t plan to be committed and you both just want to “see how it goes” your relationship will end before it even starts. Relationship is serious business and is not for children but for mature minds.
If your partner has no clear definition to your relationship or is not showing any sign of commitment, please do not even consider consenting to any kind of relationship because it will surely blow up in your face.
2. Determine how long you will be apart
There has to be a time frame to your relationship. This means the specific number of months or years in which you both will be apart. If there is no time frame to your relationship and you both just jump into it, you will lose focus and be frustrated. Setting a time frame will help you determine what you both want and will help you to be patient.
2. Make Plans
You need to have made plans on how to maintain your relationship. This is crucial because its not like a normal relationship where you have the luxury of seeing each other possibly everyday. You both have to set rules and strategies for communication and if possible, how often you will see each other. Once these issues are taken care of, it will reduce the pain and stress of being apart from each other and also create the illusion of presence.
It is totally impossible for any relationship at all, long distance or not, to thrive when there is no trust. If you both do not trust each other, you will constantly suspect the moves your partner and jump into unrealistic conclusions.
Trust is the oil that will make your relationship to function properly. If you trust each other, you will be assured of your partner’ s fidelity even though you don’t see each other frequently and it will strengthen the bond between the two of you.
Distrust kills relationships and if there is no trust, it may not be advisable to embark on such because it will not survive.
Finally, there is nothing to fear about having a long distance relationship as far as you both know what you want and have taken care of everything listed above. Love conquers any obstacle and with God on your side, your relationship will thrive and you will enjoy a blissful relationship.
Are you in a long distance relationship? How do you effectively keep in touch?